Monday, August 07, 2006

Mon 8/7 Blog Prompt - Digital Scrapbook Place

Mon 8/7 Blog Prompt - Digital Scrapbook Place: "I believe most of us have significant others in our lives, so:

How did you first meet your in-laws? Impressions?"


I first met the Wicked Witch of the South..I mean my MIL maybe a month after dating my dh. She was very friendly and charming to my FACE. However I soon found out that was an act. She is still nicey nice t o my face but has made terrible accusations about me (our oldest child together was born premature and suffered a stroke before he was born and spent 23 days in NICU, when my husband called to tell her he had been born, she insisted that he was NOT premature (and therefore not my husbands) because he weighed 5lbs and that I had convinced the doctors to lie to my husband about that). I can understand her not liking me but to say something like that during such a stressful time struck me as beyond vindictive. DH and I have been together three years and she STILL makes nasty remarks and even tells blatant lies about me to his other family members. I do not hate her but I do choose to keep my distance.

My husband's only sister is definitely her mother's child and too much like her mom for us to ever be friends. She is two faced and likes to cause trouble. DH and I had moved in together and she gave his ex girlfriend's mother our phone number, who then gave the number to her daughter. These are just a few of the incidents that have shown me the best way to handle both of them is with a long handled spoon so to speak.

The only other IL that I know well is my husband's maternal grandmother. How she ever raised my MIL, I do not know. She is sweet as can be. She has always been there for my husband and basically raised him when his mom decided she had other things she wanted to do. She has told me that she is happy that dh has me in his life and to pray for his mother but do not involve her too much in our lives. Her exact words were Wanda is miserable and would like nothing more than for you two to be miserable too.

6 comments:

loonyhiker said...

It's a shame that there are people like that in the world. Hubby and I say at least you can see them for what they are and take it from there. Just don't let her make you miserable or she will be the winner in this struggle. Take pity on her that she needs to say and do things like this. She is the one who is missing out on a wonderful relationship with you!

Tink said...

I agree with Pat. don't let her make you miserable.

Toshia said...

i came across your blog and just had to read this. wow. thats terrible. my MIL did not like me either. she would act ok around me but talk junk about me to my husband. when we were dating the first time i meet her she told him she did NOT want me there christmas day. she was not happy over the fact i had a child (and he was dating someone with a child). just so many things. not to mention the year of h*** i had with his oldest sister. she said many many bad things about me. so i feel the pain lol. she acts ok around me now (hubby and i have been married for 5 yrs so far) but i think she just acts that way so her only son will not say the heck with her and stop coming around. (baby boy.. she will do anything to make him happy lol)

glynis said...

How sad...I agree that you should be careful around people like that, but it's hard when they're family :)

heather said...

How awful to have such a MIL. I think you're very clever just to keep your distance and not get involved.

Bonnie said...

Terrible, I feel sad for you to have such a horrible MIL, you normally only get a change to have one in life! So all the mother in law jokes are real for you then?! Just carry on regardless and don't let her spoil your life or your marriage.